parties...

hmm, maybe this is one of topics which i shouldnt touch
but i shall anyhow

what are parties?
especially to teenagers 16-18?
what does a party mean to you?

occasionally i attend parties which are attended by a large group of ppl, that is, 30 ppl or more.
it is not often that i attend parties since my parents feel it is inappropriate for one my age being a student, to attend so many parties

but on the occasion that i attend a party, there are usually many different kinds of views on the party, the organisation of the party, as well as how 'cool' the party is.
There are instances whereby people would deem the party as 'lame' or 'a waste of time' and leave halfway, even worse, stay till the end and then talk behind the organizers' backs about how lousy the party was.

- just because he/she didnt fit in, or didnt enjoy it enough.
- or perhaps its just because he/she was an organizer and he/she compares this party to that.

people go to parties with an expectation.
what is your expectation of a party?

is it suppose to have loud music blasting away,
people dancing away
drinks passed around freely
what you call a 'cool' party

or

like those parties we attended when we were younger
where games were organised,
where everyone's participation was ensured and required?

or

is the party suppose to be for friends who sit around and talk
yet at the same time still enjoying themselves, laughing away?

then people also consider the location where the party is held
is it too out of place?
is it too small, too big?
is the setting lousy?
no classy/'cool' music played?


people DO go for parties with an expectation, a perception of how a party should be carried out
more often than not, a small minority of people go away from these parties with no second thought of attending parties organised by the same person again. no thank you.


for me, i do have an expectation when i attend a party
that is, for everyone to be enjoying themselves
having a good time...after all, we are busy students and we dont usually get time to meet up outside school hours to talk about stuff, play 'bridge' so freely without the fuss of having teachers popping in to collect the cards.

the thing i feel is that we should attend parties with an open mind
not every party is the same, 'cool' or 'not-cool',
its really all about having a great time with friends and perhaps get to know people you dont usually talk to better.
i'm not saying we shouldnt go to parties without an expectation,
but im saying that we should be more open-minded about the whole thing

after all, not everybody is with the same budget
and not everybody has the same perception of how a party should be

=) and enjoy!