Tuesday, August 22, 2006

comment by kind passer-by =)

'hypnosis said...'

Many people try to achieve goals. Most fail. Some strive, work hard and plan for all the details yet they achieve little or nothing at all. Others strive, work hard, plan and achieve huge success. Yet there are a few individuals who do little else than take small steps and seem to achieve a great deal with what seems like effortlessness. What is the difference between these people and which one would you like to be?

Most members of the human race fall into two categories - those who live in the past and those who live in the future. Most live in the past. Many of these are the people who achieve very little in their lives and are so fearful of the future that they dare not strike out to get anything. They are the under-achievers who hang onto bad episodes in their lives and either relive them time and again or look at new situations as similar potentialities. They say things like "all men are deceivers" or "all women are interested in is money" or "I can't do it. I tried before and it didn't work so why bother!". Due to bad experiences in the past they believe that all future events will turn out the same way if they dare to go after what they want.

The other type of person lives in the future. This type tends to create more of the things they want in life. They have a vision of where they want to go and exactly how they are going to get there. They work diligently at making concrete plans and they pursue those plans with a persistent ferocious appetite for success. These people are the high achievers - The Richard Branson and Bill Gates of the world. These people have much to teach us about setting and achieving goals. However, there is a third type of person who almost goes unnoticed. They are the person who takes life in its stride and yet achieve most of what they want. I am sure you know of such a person in your life that just seems to saunter through life and yet they always come out on top. Or a person who you hear of that has decided to open a shop. You meet them a few months later and they have three shops all doing well! So what makes these people so successful and if they aren't living in the past and aren't living in the future where are they living?

I suppose you guessed it! Whether they are consciously aware of it or not they are living in the present. It is in the 'living' present that we have our greatest power. Everything happens in the present. You live your entire life there - even if your mind does not!

By becoming more aware of the present and by 'accepting' it as it is we are much more in control of our emotions and focus. When we live in the past we are fearful of making bad choices and/or getting hurt. We do not wish to recreate the past again! When we live in the future we can also be fearful of what might happen. But even if your future vision is full of power and worthy of working towards many people can, and often do, get stuck there. By constantly reaching for bigger and better goals they fail to enjoy what they have in the moment.

If you wish to start living a life that is almost effortless begin first by living in the present. Accept your situation the way it is and then you can enjoy what you have. Your focus changes from a memory of what was or a vision of what might be to a realization of what is. You become much more empowered to then see the beauty of life and also look at where you wish to make changes. But to make changes you must first accept the situation as it is. Trying to escape from your present only increases your focus on your problems by creating resistance to what is. Accept your life as it is now. Make no judgement, just accept it and then you will be free of doubt, worry, pain and fear. For you only experience these things when you live outside the 'moment'.


haha nice read...=D

4 Comments:

At Tue Aug 22, 10:54:00 PM GMT+8 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

IMHO, there are two ways of looking at why some people are the way they are.

We could see them as victims, subject to the things in their lives that make them what they are. Or we could see them as the cause of their own problems (it's their fault because they focus on the bad experiences).

Yea, i agree that it's somewhat their fault because it's their choice to pity themselves. But if we sit back and distance ourselves from these people, are we making the situation any better? He/she/it (you know who i'm talking about) mentioned how he/she/it felt distanced from the christians in his/her/its workplace. I can't say for sure, but i think it might be because those people failed to show love to him/her/it. Hence she becomes increasingly aloof(and angry!), and the cycle repeats.

We're both christians. so i'd like to take this into the christian context. Love is the greatest commandment (enemies, neighbours, friends alike). imho, we should try our very best show it. =)

 
At Tue Aug 22, 11:01:00 PM GMT+8 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

yup i agree always =D
we should never take a backseat and watch things happen

we should always, after we notice things, do something about it to bring about a change, to better someone's life as best as we can. =D yup.

 
At Thu Aug 24, 07:39:00 PM GMT+8 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey xuriyao! =) insightful posts on your blog, i like the poem below...thank you for reminding readers that our hearts shouldnt be made of stone..
and really good post by 'hypnosis' =)

 
At Wed Aug 30, 08:18:00 PM GMT+8 , Anonymous Anonymous said...

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